In the mirror

Its all in how you see yourself. If you look in the mirror and see a one eye one horn flying purple people eater, guess what. When you face the world they will see you the same way.

I swear, I should really be an advice columnist.

We all face insecurities. Weather we see it as our height, our weight, our background or anything else, its all in how we see ourselves now. Sometime peoples insecurities are obvious. Some are more subtle. I guess because we are all friends here, I can tell you mine. I am short, I am fat and I have always been called "ugly". And I believed ALL that shit. One day, I looked in the mirror and the person looking back at me was not, in fact ugly, but was kinda gorgeous. Then I combed my hair. And put on a little make up. And all of a sudden my clothes stopped being black. My jeans turned into skirts. My frown flipped the other way and people started to view me as i viewed myself, AWESOME.

My point in writing this blog tonight is because I have a friend. *side note, all my male friends are very much attractive. All of them.* Back to the story. I have this friend that is a cutie pie. Just a friend, nothing more. We chat all the time. His biggest insecurity is his height. He says that women only like Tall men. I told him, women prefer un-ignorant men. He swears that because he is a little shy, it is IMPOSSIBLE to find a woman. I told him that we love thinkers. He says that he just can not find a woman because of his height. I told him, stop showing your height and show your damn degree.

People see you how you see yourself. If you give up because you think nobody likes you because you are short that is your own insecurity keeping you from your full potential. Do you ever look in the mirror and accentuate the positive. If you are not willing to have confidence in yourself, nothing will change. Ok, you are short.... but you are.....

smart great personality look great in a suit
handsome potential to have something in life
employed nice smile educated
great personality great body no kids

What's the f*ckin problem? You focus too much on what society thinks you should be and not who you are. You are all of the things listed above plus some that I will never know. Now if you reflect that out, you will get that back. Simple. I, personally am 5'5.5". My sister is 6', my dad is 6'3", my brother is 6'2 and my other brother is 6'6.... now if I walk into a room, I do not look like the shortest in the group but the leader of the pack. Because in my mind, I am 7' and no one in this world can tell me I am not. I always keep in mind that those that are judging me are the same ones that see my potential and hope that I don't make it. When I lay down at night, and when I wake in the morning, they are not who I am facing. I only have to face myself. The only person in this world whom opinion matters to who I will be in the future is MINE. Always keep that in mind.

Boy, pick your ass up and realize what you are. Focusing on the what nots will keep you away from the can haves.... Ijs.

Questions?